tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12680417.post441324231905114921..comments2023-03-28T19:19:37.037+05:30Comments on The (MIS)Adventures of Sugar'n'Spice: Chivalry is dead these days.... or not!!Sugar & Spicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00370503743210911022noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12680417.post-63328818560383847342009-10-05T23:04:05.047+05:302009-10-05T23:04:05.047+05:30@aftab.. thanks for ur comment... just comparing t...@aftab.. thanks for ur comment... just comparing teh 2 cities, i think ppl dont come forward and help ppl in fights etc in delhi cuz there have been enough instances when those who came to help got beaten up or worse, killed! that way the junta is very helpful in mumbai.. one woman gets teased, the whole bus stands up to defend her.<br />However, i think general apathy is higher in mumbai,. where everyone leads an extremely private life.. ive spent years living here, without interacting at ALL with my neighbours, cuz ppl like to keep distances here. many may find the nosey-ness in delhi irritating, but it can come in handy when u need a favour or help in emergency.<br /><br />@yashika... i totally agree,... in spite of being an independent, i like to be treated like a lady... double standards? i dunno... but i definitely like ur argument of women playing more difficult roles, and deserving some TLC! :)<br />thanks for visiting, as always!<br /><br /><br />@gagan... ive seen such women myself, who dont want any chivalry except from their SOs. To each, her own, is all i can say!<br /><br />@neha... yes maam!!<br /><br />@lekha...<br /><br />a. do u think like crimes against women are higher and status of women is not very good in teh northern, patrilinear part of india, chivalry will be less here, as compared to more educated and matrilinear states like kerala or bengal??<br /><br />b. totally agree with you on thsi point.<br /><br />c. you know i never really thought of it like that... i dont think most people even acknowledge or even think about how much teh women take care of men!! talk abt reverse chivalry! :))<br /><br />thanks a lot for ur comment sweety.. dont thank me, im just jotting down random thots... ur the more awesome blogger!!Sugar & Spicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00370503743210911022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12680417.post-80398981256880524662009-09-25T17:08:49.481+05:302009-09-25T17:08:49.481+05:30Too many things rushing to my head at the moment.....Too many things rushing to my head at the moment...<br /><br />a)I dont think the topic of discussion is just about special care for women. The question is about whether we care or not. Two women are trying hard to push their car which has broken down to the corner of the road. Its up to the people around (and let me add.. NOT JUST MEN) to extend a helping hand. Now if it were two men trying as hard to do the same thing, still i would expect the people around to help them. Because thats a nice thing to do. Even animals help each other if one’s under distress. Arent we humans - the evolved, enlightened, intellectual, civilized ones expected to do the same? And yes very correctly pointed out that this is dependant on the character and the virtue of the people and not on which states/areas they belong to. <br /><br />b) Talking just about women, irony stands laughing at us here. Even though God has given us the strongest muscles and a stronger sense of perseverance to bear a child and suffer the pains of delivering it, our limbs are still biologically more tender than a man unless all us women decide to get on steroids and build muscles (this may be debatable though, i understand). But on the contrary, even as a woman who may be the say greatest weight lifter or body builder in this world pushes/repairs a car alone, should she be offered help? Yes she should. <br /><br />Taking that point forward, women today have proved that they are capable of doing everything and even without proving that, i'd believe in the equality of sexes. I refuse to believe that women 'lose' their 'rights' for care when they become 'equal' to men. I mean, come on... At no point of time, between or after becoming fiercely competitive and independent, does any woman become unworthy of the love and care others (again, NOT JUST MEN) may give her. NOR does a man. A woman may refuse it but never hate it. Same with a man. He may refuse it but never hate it. Unless their ego fails to appreciate the love/care the other is giving them. <br /><br />c) And specific to a man-woman relationship, it’s not just that men have always taken care of women, its always been the other way round as well. It may have had less to do with carrying our husbands/boyfriends in our arms or pushing cars around for people (though there may have been many such cases), but it may have had to do with coming back every day from work and cooking food for both of us, taking care of them or maybe by being a strong emotional support to them just as they are to us. <br /><br />I hope I conveyed my comments in the way I wanted to.. cause I still feel I could have said more and in a better way. Though, at any point of time, I know everyone has a right to own his/her opinion and I will not thrust mine on anyone else. <br /><br />Thanks Adi, for bringing up such a nice topic. At times, such thinking sessions gives one scope to decipher whether we are still evolving as humans or are we going down the cycle.. back to what we originally were.. a matter in the space. :)<br /><br />Love,<br />AshenAshenGlowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02568095894480386865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12680417.post-56347651573456032882009-09-23T13:15:32.759+05:302009-09-23T13:15:32.759+05:30Interesting observation! I guess it takes all kind...Interesting observation! I guess it takes all kinds of people to make this world... some chivalrous and some not so much!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12680417.post-37124292489536605092009-09-23T11:29:22.370+05:302009-09-23T11:29:22.370+05:30I think definition of chivalry, as well as the mom...I think definition of chivalry, as well as the moments where its shown has changed with time. With the claim that women are equal to men (and I support this whole heartedly), women lose the right to be considered as someone needing that extra care. I have female friends who compete fiercely, and are independent to a fault. They don't want people around them to show chivalry, except by the special person in their life.<br /><br />Chivalry is not dead, though instances when men chose to act chivalrous depends on the kind of relation - professional or personal, they have with the girl.Gaganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15595362211699594809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12680417.post-73319908041999190012009-09-22T19:42:13.914+05:302009-09-22T19:42:13.914+05:30Chivalry is today's time is rare! A few good m...Chivalry is today's time is rare! A few good men (like the ones who assisted u in the tyre-change) do exist yes, but they're still far inbetween n few. N id say delhi, mumbai, or any other city for that matter, are equally bad when it comes to chivalrous behaviour.<br /><br />Laying down coats n pulling back chairs is a thing that we associate either to old mythological figures, or older times per se, or just fancy movies and books (like the good ol' mills n boons).<br /><br />Why the lack of chivalry in today's times? Well we share part blame. One, women are so busy acting n working like men, that men dont see us as objects requiring extra care anymore. Second, the growing sentiment of feminism makes men averse to the idea of treating women any differently.<br /><br />Is this fair? Tough to say. I mean being a fairly independent woman myself, I would still like it if somebody pulled back the chair for me, or once in a while, opened the car door for me. Cause its not like we've stopped caring for our men altoogether. Then why should they? Also, its a proven fact that a lady leads a tougher life and plays several roles. With that, some thoughtful chivalrous gestures wouldnt hurt.Yashika Totlani Khannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11196136921086225817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12680417.post-21378973491842264662009-09-22T19:41:31.645+05:302009-09-22T19:41:31.645+05:30i agree...chivalry is not defined region or identi...i agree...chivalry is not defined region or identity..mainly by attitudes..though i think yours is more a case of people helping out each other than just pure chivalry..Delhi is quite a 'live and let live' city and people's attitudes are quite frozen..a sense of community is lacking..though i have heard tales of people helping others out...those i beleive are exceptions...most people wudnt care a fig even if u were lying dead on the road,sadlythe lazy knighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12776924873209244313noreply@blogger.com